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When the boys at school hit your son, what shield should he make?

Posted by on May 31, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

“I need to make a shield to bring to school,” my 5-year-old son says in a matter-of-fact way as he drifts off to sleep at the end of a long weekend.  “Why?” his dad asks.  “The boys at school hit me, and I need to find a way to protect myself.  I keep telling them to stop, but they won’t stop, so I need to make some sort of shield.  It needs to be stronger than cardboard, but it can’t be metal because we’re not allowed to bring weapons to school.  What is stronger than cardboard but not as hard as metal?” How do we as...

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Insomnia, my enemy

Posted by on Jul 19, 2016 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Sleep is one of life’s ultimate paradoxes. For those who have never had sleep problems, sleep is quite literally a dream. It arrives effortlessly, recharges the body, and replenishes the mind. After eight hours of sweet slumber, the mind can go from weary and haggard to refreshed and ready to dominate a new day. And to all you sleeping sweetly at night, those with insomnia say, “Screw you.” Because for people who have experienced sleep problems, sleep can become a true nightmare. The more they try to fall asleep, the more elusive it...

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How to Face Your Fears

Posted by on Feb 20, 2015 in anxiety, CBT | 0 comments

The Problem: Avoidance is the natural response to anxiety.  This worked great when running away from saber-tooth tigers; not so much for modern day challenges and stressors. The Science: Approaching things we’re afraid of trains our brains that this scary thing is actually OK to approach, thus reducing our anxiety about it and giving us the opportunity to build mastery in a feared domain. The Solution: Challenge yourself to live your life more fully by facing your fears. Use the strategy list below to help you out. Reducing Avoidance...

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Feeling lost? Here’s a map back to true north.

Posted by on Feb 19, 2015 in CBT | 0 comments

Last week I had a terrible flu, and it tipped me into some darkness.  After I allowed myself some cozy time to mope around and despair, my feelings of exhaustion and overwhelm served as catalysts to get clearer on some things.  My energy became a precious commodity, forcing me to think more intentionally about how I spend it.  I had to get up close and personal with what is really important to me, and sacrifice the rest.  This reflection led me to a Memo to Myself.  I started by asking myself what I valued most in life.  These were my...

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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is for Hackers

Posted by on Jan 17, 2013 in CBT, Technology | 7 comments

Adding to the growing list of high-profile suicides in the tech world, last week Aaron Swartz, co-founder of Reddit and fierce open access activist, took his life at age 26. If Aaron was like the 100 people who kill themselves in this country every day, the biggest factor contributing to his death was likely under-treated depression. We can readily come up with hypotheses as to why depression is a problem in the tech world. A culture defined by ruthless pressure, high stakes, and risky gambles. Often hiding behind pseudo-anonymity, lightning...

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